DENISE FEDOROW: There are all kinds of mothers | News

Since we celebrated Mother’s Day a few weeks ago, I’ve been thinking about mothers in general, the multiple roles they have and the different ways they fulfill them.

But first I have to start with Mother Nature – what’s been going on with her lately? She’s been super menopausal – hot and cold – she can’t seem to get her temperature right. This story of ups and downs with the weather has been crazy! Temperature variations from 40 degrees one day to 80 degrees the next day are difficult to manage.

I thought she had things under control when we had several days of hot weather and then it was supposed to reach ‘normal’ May temps in the 70s but instead it went down into the 50s , then it’s supposed to go back up to near 90s today, then up to the low 60s this weekend. Someone must have driven Mama Nature crazy – maybe she didn’t get what she wanted for Mother’s Day.

But back to ordinary moms – they have such an important job that often isn’t seen that way. They nurture, nurture and comfort the little ones; they act simultaneously as nurses, teachers and spiritual leaders, coaches and cheerleaders. They are cooks, cleaners, gardeners and managers. Party planners and drivers.

It may seem impossible to put a dollar figure on the value mothers bring to their families, but a few groups of people have tried. According to an online article, Here’s how much economists say stay-at-home moms should be paid by Carmen Huddleston (December 1, 2021), Insure.com estimated that stay-at-home moms do about 18 jobs a day, so her salary should be $116,022 – up from $93,920 last year due to additional responsibilities due to the pandemic. Salary.com pegs the higher salaries at $184,820 after factoring in CFO and COO roles that doubled time last year due to the pandemic.

However, the article stated that the way an economist would value the work would be far from these amounts. They suggest the best way to determine value is to use Department of Labor data to determine the approximate value of mothers’ labor. The article reported that the US Department of Labor’s Time Use Survey helps determine time spent on tasks.

Frankly, I was shocked when they determined that females devote tasks. For example, they determined that stay-at-home mothers spend 2.56 hours caring for and helping children in the household under the age of 18, and working mothers spend 1.35 hours a day on childcare. .

What? I mean, seriously – what?! Who takes care of the children the other 21 hours a day? Who dresses, feeds, bathes and teaches the children the rest of the time? Do they think the child sleeps the rest of the time? And even if it was, they still need to be cared for. Firefighters and EMS personnel are paid to be “on call” whether or not there is a fire or medical emergency.

Moms are on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They get up in the middle of the night to soothe a frightened child, heal a sick child. I would like to know who they think is doing this.

For food preparation and cleaning, they estimated that stay-at-home moms spend 1.56 hours a day and full-time working moms spend 0.8 hours a day preparing meals and cleaning up afterwards.

What now? Don’t they know that stay-at-home moms prepare three meals a day plus snacks? How is it in 1h56? I’d say it’s more for the working mum – but even for them, if they also cook breakfast before work, it’s more than that.

Their formula for determining pay based on what chefs, childcare workers, or drivers make an hour makes sense, but the duration is a long way off. Thus, economists would value the work of mothers at $36,189.75. But they left out so many jobs that it’s not a valid comparison, in my opinion.

Moms have all types of personalities too. Some mums are very involved – the soccer mum types – who are at all her child’s activities; engaged with them by playing with them, reading to them, etc., whether she is a working mother or not. That’s the kind of mom I was.

Then there’s the opposite – moms who are detached. They provide basic care by feeding or dressing them, but they are not involved. They’re not really interested in going to kids’ activities – that’s how my mom was.

Some moms are passionate about cooking, others are artisans – knitting, sewing, doing arts and crafts with the kids; others are gardeners and outdoor enthusiasts while others are happier snuggling up to their child and reading a book. These things can also change over the years.

But serious or playful, the most important quality is love. If a child feels loved and safe, he will think his mother is the best.

Denise Fedorow is a columnist and correspondent for the Goshen News. Readers can contact her at [email protected] Follow Denise on Twitter @DeniseFedorow

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